Is it a Season or a Stalemate?

I recently met with a client who has been experiencing some marital difficulties for a couple of years. In session, I told him that one of the things for him to determine is whether this hard time is a "season" (something that will pass) or if it feels more permanent, like something that can't be saved (a stalemate). His question back to me was, "How can I tell if it's a season?" This is a valid question and one that anybody in a long-term relationship (let's consider long-term here 10+ years) will have to ask themselves at some point. All relationships, of any kind, go through tough times and it's more common than you think for people to contemplate throwing in the towel at least once. While every relationship is unique and it's up to each person in the relationship to decide what they can tolerate (and for how long), I thought it might be helpful to lay out how I help people determine whether their current relationship struggle i ...

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Loud vs. Quiet Love

Most of my current friends are in romantic relationships. It may come as no surprise, but each relationship is vastly different from the others and entirely unique. Some have been together a long time, some less than a year. Some fight like cats and dogs, while some rarely do. Despite how much my friends' relationships differ from each other, I've come to realize that any relationship can be grouped into one of two categories: quiet or loud. These are terms I've created and I'm sure many experts have come up with other terms that more or less describe what I'm about to talk about in this blog (so if this sounds familiar, that's because it probably is!). My intention here is to get you thinking about what kind of relationship you have and if that's the kind of relationship you want. Many people, without even realizing it, are not getting the kind of love they want out of the relationship they're in now. 

It may fir ...

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Lessons I Learned While Planning My Wedding (And What You May Learn Too)

Today is May 31st and on June 9th, I will be getting married. I have had a lot on my mind these final days before I become a wife and what these past 11 months have taught me while I've been engaged. You hear it all the time: planning a wedding is stressful and not easy. I don't disagree with that but I will also say that for me, it has been way more fun and enjoyable than I thought it would be. It's felt more like play than work most of the time. That doesn't mean it hasn't had its challenges, though. For anyone who has planned a wedding themselves, you know how it has the power to teach you a lot about yourself, your partner, and the other relationships in your lives. For those of you who haven't planned a wedding, let me share with you what I've learned from my own experience. If you plan a wedding someday, maybe these lessons will help you along in your own process. 

1. Every issue that you have with your partner wi ...

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