Love the Fear.

It was some time ago when I was in a therapy session of my own that my therapist said, "The opposite of fear is love." It took me awhile before I fully understood what she was talking about. In sessions since, this has come up multiple times. She refers to different emotions as being in the "fear family" or the "love family." Members of the fear family include anxiety, overwhelm, anger, hurt, etc. while the love family includes courage, peace, joy, and more. 

More than ever, the world needs love right now. Sure, love can't cure a virus. Love can't lift shelter-in-place orders, but it can help us feel better. I've seen and heard about many acts of love, including neighbors buying groceries for each other, the movement to sew medical masks, and people just calling each other more than usual. These are beautiful things taking place; that's the good news. The bad news is that there are a whole lot of people dying and there is a lot of u ...

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The "Right" Time

The most common question I ask myself when making decisions is, "Is this the right time?" I probably ask it (or some variation of it) at least once a week, sometimes once a day. Sometimes it might be about small things such as, "Is this the right day to clean the house?" or "Is this the right time to buy this (or should I wait until payday)?" Sometimes it's about medium things such as, "Is this the right time to have this serious conversation?" or bigger things such as "Is this the right time to buy a new house?" My bet is that you likely ask yourself this same question with various situations in your own life.

Whenever we're facing the thought of a big life change (switching jobs, ending/entering a relationship, moving, etc.), it can be easy to think that if we just do it at the "right" time that it will somehow be easier. When we get caught up in thinking this way, typically one of two things happen: we either don't ever d ...

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Single on Valentine's Day? Read this.

Maybe it's just me, but it felt like Valentine's Day decor infiltrated the grocery store aisles sooner than usual this year. I saw chocolates, hearts and teddy bears out before January 1st in some places. While there are definitely single people out there who fully tune out Valentine's Day, laughing it off as a stupid, commercial holiday (and genuinely being okay with being single on this day), there are others out there who experience Valentine's Day as one of the hardest days of the year. If you find yourself struggling on this day, my guess is that you've felt some judgement towards yourself at times. You may have thought to yourself, "Why does it bother you so much? Just get over it. You're a loser for caring about this day." If that applies to you, keep reading. It's time to let some of those judgments go. 

Let's think about a few scenarios for a second. Would you tell a grieving widow that she's stupid for feeling sad on Valentine' ...

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